Excerpt from the Book


Clearing The Path

You have to let go of what you don’t want

to make room for what you do want.

 

To empower yourself you have to be willing to let go of the muck in your life and replace it with blessings.  It’s a lot easier than you think.  Committing to empowerment is the first step and that’s why you’re here. 

When you release, you let go of a person, place, or situation in its present stage.  You may want to release a person who is co-dependant, abusive, or whom you simply have outgrown.  Maybe it’s a situation at home or work that you can no longer handle, or no longer choose to handle.  It may be a pattern, an emotion or a habit that is no longer working for your growth.  Other times it may be a desire to release the fear that the good in your life won’t last. 

Regardless of the reason, I commend you for being at this point in your life when you’re ready to grow.  At this moment in time you are ready to leap forward into your betterment, the full essence of who you truly are. 

Some things, people, or situations may take a little longer to completely let go of than other things and I don’t say this to discourage you.  I say this to encourage you.  If you have been in a bad relationship for ten years, it might take you more than one fifteenminute releasing session to let go of that person and what you believed they represented in your life.  On the other hand, if you are mentally ready one session might be all you need!

Most of the techniques I speak about on the following pages should be done at least three times.  Very often you may feel complete when you have done a process, but it sneaks back in.  Think of it as your Higher Self testing you to see if you are serious.  Sometimes you’re not, especially when it comes to relationships.  You may think you want out, but deep down you’re afraid that if you let go of this person they may be better off without you.  He or she may go on and become more prosperous, find someone else, and live happily ever after and you’ll be alone.  But that’s not the way your Higher Mind works.  When you release what’s not working you get a blessing.  The blessing can come in many forms.  Releasing a man or woman from your life doesn’t mean you’ll meet a new one the next day.  A friend of mine, Gary, was married for ten years.  The marriage was not working after counseling, retreats, and trying everything under the sun.  He and his wife decided to release each other from their commitment known as marriage.  He was really torn apart from the process.  His life had not been working for the past two years.  He couldn’t find work, his wife had taken the BAR examine three times and never passed.  I asked him to do a Burning, (which I describe in this chapter) releasing his marriage and the various experiences that came from it.  Strangely enough, in a week he was working.  His anger towards the failure of his marriage was subsiding and his overall outlook on life was better.  His wife also passed the BAR exam the next time she took it.  Which goes to show you, sometimes you are holding a person back from their good and it doesn’t have to be intentional. 

When you are angry with a person your thoughts can cause havoc in their lives and yours and that’s not a good thing.  What’s even worse is that other people’s energy, especially anger, can trigger a snowball effect of bad situations in your life as well.  This is why it’s important to release and do clearing exercises on a regular basis, so you’re not carrying around any residual resentment for your own safety and for the safety of those around you.  I like to do a releasing exercise at least once a month, usually at the end of the month.  But I must admit, there are times when I can’t wait.  Although I am a Minister, I’m still human.  I still make mistakes.  I still get mad.  I get traffic tickets.  I’ve even been overlooked for a job that I just knew was mine, or my ego led me believe it was.  However, being an empowered individual, instead of sulking I reach for a pen and some paper and get all my anger, hurt, and disappointment out.  As I release I can feel the essence of what’s ahead coming to me and through me.  Remember that you are not given any situation that you cannot handle.  Losing a job, your home, even a loved one is not the end of the world, although it may seem that way at the time and for a long time after that.  Think for a moment.  I’m sure you had a situation in your life that you thought you would never rise above, but you have.  Sometimes it’s important to look at how far you have come.  If you’re still here, you have a job to do and maybe God had to release you from that job or home or separate you from your loved one to get your attention.  Life is like that sometimes.  Our heart has to hurt before we’re ready to accept our blessing.  I had a friend Paula, who wanted to move, but put it off for years.  A mutual psychic friend told her to move, she still didn’t listen; she just wasn’t ready.  Moving meant reorganizing her life, letting go of memories and moving into a new untested experience.  She was offered jobs in new cities, but oh no, she wouldn’t budge.  When the time was right she would know.  One day while she was out having a good time a brush fire occurred which not only took her home, but the homes of many others.  She was now homeless.  The memories she wanted to preserve were now all located in her mind!  Her experiences from this point on were going to be new and untested.  She was given more than three opportunities to move forward.  I truly believe that Spirit gives us warnings before you’re forced into your future.  You know you’ve outgrown your job, yet you don’t look for a job that honors you.  You start getting bombarded with extra work and usually they start criticizing your work, yet you bite your lip and take it in.  Next thing you know you’re getting sick, but you don’t see this as a sign from your body to vacate the premises.  Then out of the blue you get fired for not being able to do your job and the extra work you were given while you were sick and you wonder why.  Do you get my point?  Usually you know when it’s time to move on, but you don’t. 

Releasing helps you ease out of situations before they blow up in your face.  It calls forth Divine Order, the highest form of order.  It also gives you room in your body temple for the much needed change that you want to create.  See your body as a house with many rooms.  These rooms hold your experiences from life, some good, some bad.  See this as a time to do some spring-cleaning.  What are you holding onto that’s not moving you forward?  Smoking?  Excessive drinking? Guilt?  A relationship that’s dead?  An unfulfilling job?  Fear?  Anger?  Friends that keep you down?  Are you still mad at your mother and father for how they raised you, or something they did or didn’t do?  Do you feel blocked?  No matter what you try to do, nothing seems to work.  You know something is in the way, but you can’t figure out what it is and you can’t get it to move.  It’s time to RELEASE. 

Be willing to let go of the good to get to the Best


Burning

Tools Needed: Pen, Paper, Matches, Something to Burn Paper In, Desire, and Honesty

Time Needed: Fifteen minutes

Results: Freedom from people places or situations that are blocking you.

 

At the top of your paper write the following:

I (Name) release the following people, places, situations, and emotions from my life and vibration.

Now start to write about in detail what is aching at you.  If you are mad at someone, really get into why.  Write about the incident in detail.  Whether they forgot your birthday, embarrassed you in front of your friends, borrowed something and never returned it, or physically hurt you.  Write it down, get it out of you! 

If it’s a place, write down the name of the place or the location.  Why does this place have an effect on you?  Were you over-charged?  Disrespected?  Fired?   How does this place make you feel? Is there or was there someone there that just made your skin crawl?  Write it down. 

Emotions that need releasing are usually fears. Release your fear of poverty and why it happens to you.  Release your fear of success or failure.  Even a fear of heights, love, or snakes can be included.  Write about your fears.  How long have you had them?  When did they start?  If a particular incident got you started fearing roller-coasters, write about it; it’s time to let it go.

Release old patterns that no longer serve you.  Release your sarcasm, your need to binge, smoke, or steal.  Release your need to sleep with men or women who you don’t love, or with whom you don’t want to have a serious relationship.  Just write it down.

It’s important not to edit yourself or your feelings when you do this exercise.  Only you will see what you write.  No one is going to benefit from it but you.  Actually, that’s not true.  Change one thing about yourself and your whole world changes.  People can and will respond to you differently when you are carrying less baggage.   When you release a person, sometimes for the first time, you are able to see them for who they really are and they can see you.  When you release your old job, you open yourself up for new opportunities to come forth.  When you release your old way of dealing with relationships all your relationships change for the better.  What’s great about this exercise is the relief of knowing that something that was holding you back is gone from your life.  Now of course you can invite it back in.   Who would you be without your fear of snakes?  You would be a better person!  It doesn’t matter if you’ve carried it from lifetime to lifetime, from when the Pharaoh threw you in the snake pit to die, because you insisted upon doing some heroic deed.  In releasing the fear of snakes, you also release the blessing that the fear is blocking.  Since that lifetime when the Pharaoh threw you in the pit, not only are you afraid of snakes, but you also haven’t done any heroic deeds for fear of the consequences.  In releasing the fear you not only free yourself from snakes, but you are free to be a hero again.  A hero in your life!  Release the block, allow the blessing. 

When you’re finished, write the following statement at the end:

These people, places, and situations have affected me in my past, but no more.  I forgive them and release them into light and love.  I replace them with love, peace, joy, and prosperity.  Thank you God, Divine Spirit, the Universe, Infinite Intelligence etc. -   (Sign your name)

This next step is the fun part for me and hopefully for you.  You need something safe that you can burn paper in.  That can be a baking tray in lined with a piece of foil, a witch’s pot, a portable BBQ pit.  This can be indoors or outdoors.  If you choose to do it outdoors, be careful not to cause a brush fire.  Stranger things have happened!  Stand over your burning vessel with your sheet(s) and recite with passion and fury the last statement from the closing: These people, places and things have affected me in my past, but no more.  I forgive them and release them into light and love.  I replace them with love, peace, joy, and prosperity.  Then tear up your sheets into medium to small pieces of paper.  Grab your matches or lighter.  Light a few pieces of paper and place them in the vessel, then continue to add more paper until all your baggage is gone.  Now, I must warn you, your fire may try to go out, keep relighting it.  Make sure every piece of paper is burned to a crisp.  Many times your fears and blocks are comfortable with you.  This burning is letting them know that they don’t serve your needs any more.  Your fire may go out or erupt.  The phone will ring.  You’ll burn your fingers, but you’ll keep going!  This is a time for you to win.  Burn it up baby! 

When the last piece of paper is converted to ashes, say Thank you, God.  Then, sit for a moment and allow yourself to filled with the love, peace, joy, and prosperity that you deserve.  You will feel at peace.  It’s a wonderful feeling knowing that you are free from something or someone.

This process may need to be repeated depending upon your circumstance.  Sometimes when you are releasing someone it takes time to fully get him or her out of your system.  What I have found is that each time I write out my feelings, they diminish.  This is because each time that I do the process I am releasing another part of that person, or situation.  You will see that you may not even remember what you wrote out before.  New things may come up because you’ve removed a layer of junk.  You may even find yourself forgiving that person.  That’s good, but you still have to burn them up!

The final step is in discarding the ashes.  This can be done one of two ways.  You can flush them down the toilet, or place them in a bag and throw them away from your home.  Some people like to bury them, I’m not a big fan of that.  To me they were already buried inside of you, now it’s time to set them free.

 

Steps

1.     Write out what you want to release.  State at the top of the sheet: I (name) release the following people, places, situations, and emotions from my life and vibration.

2.     Write at the bottom: These people, places, and things have affected me in my past, but no more.  I forgive them and release them into light and love.  I replace them with love, peace, joy, and prosperity.

3.     State out loud, “These people, places, and things have affected me in my past, but no more.  I forgive them and release them into light and love.  I replace them with love, peace, joy, and prosperity.”

4.     Tear up your papers.

5.     Burn them completely.

6.     Refill yourself with love, peace, joy, and prosperity.

7.     Discard the ashes.